I recently attended a class for parents of teenagers. The topic of discussion was media and social networking. I decided not to participate in the discussion and opted to listen to the input from the parents. I noticed that the parents of younger children were very against their children ever participating in any social media and the parents of older teens discussed how they carefully try to navigate monitoring their children’s involvement with their devices.
I decided I was the teenager in the room.
I have a blog, I love Facebook, I was on Twitter before it became the hot hang-out for teens, I have Snap Chat and Instagram and I text. What am I missing?
Obviously, I wasn’t going to stand up and say, “Dudes! Yo! Screens forever!”
Because that would be bad and I might lose my reputation as overly-protective-slightly-ignorant-homeschooling-pansy-Christian-blonde. And that would be, well I could stand to lose a few adjectives.
So, I sat there listening to the parents give their input about the trust they have to put into their teens when they walk out the door and hope that they aren’t assaulted with images on Joey Nogood’s phone on the bus or in the hall or wherever.
And that made me want to hide my children in a hole until they are 25, but then they would be super pale and socially inept……wait. Uh, erm, might have that going on without the hole.
Still I was not opening my mouth to say anything, because I was enjoying the banter of these parents. Some of them were wise to the fact that FaceBook is so yesterday and if you want to know the real kid just follow their Twitter and if that shocks you then you can only imagine what that kid is Snapchatting and Instagramming and none of it would be Pintrest worthy, I promise.
Do I need to insert that as I type this my 19yo daughter is laying practically in my lap while surfing Pintrest and my 8yo is shoving a Calvin and Hobbes book in my face every few minutes, “Mom! Read this. Read the whole page. It’s really funny. Read it.” I have yelled, “NO! Get that out of my face!” several times to no avail and I’m passed kindly asking my daughter if she could choose any of the other three chairs in the room, “GET OFF ME CHILD!”
Obviously, my family does not have issues with being together.
I gained some insight from the class and decided there were some things I could monitor more closely. Hopefully, my children will have a strong moral compass by the time they leave the confinement of our home, but there is always the chance that they could be sucked into the dark world of selfies and hashtags.
I’m not going to tell you how we manage/monitor/control the use of social media in our home. I think it’s wise that we talk about it with our kids all the time. Hopefully, they will learn discernment and keep their head on straight without causing their parents to worry about them constantly.
I need to go update my status. Snapchat you later!









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What is snap chat? I haven’t a clue. I’ll have to go google it now.
I don’t know either SG. When you find out you can let me know too.
Imho (ha!) I think the best thing is just to keep the kids busy. There is going to be no getting away from social media and digital devices so the key is how to find how to fit them into life in a balanced way. If they have enough to do- hands-on, physical and mental labor- then the digital devices can only be used in “spare” time. The biggest problem as I see it is that kids these days (double ha!) don’t have enough responsibility and useful things to do.
But that’s just mho.
You lost me on snapchat, lol…Off to google. I guess I’m old school as I don’t have or use twitter but I’m still using facebook, lol…I love your family, keep doing what you are doing as it seems to work!
Snapchat? Oh mercy, I just got comfortable with Facebook. I’ve been thinking about exploring the instagram, but I know twitter is beyond my current commitment to being a part of society.
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Snapchat is a riot! It’s an app where you take a pic (you can put text with it too) and you send it to someone else with Snapchat. They click on it and the photo shows for about 2 seconds and that is it. It’s hilarious some of the things people send. Just them sticking their tongues out…or whatever. Download it and try it out. It will tell you who in your contacts has Snapchat so you can send something to them right away. Fun!
April – You and your husband have obviously made yourselves available to your kids throughout their childhood and into teenhood. They trust you and respect you because you are real with them. We are raising our kids in a similar fashion (I’m an overly-protective-slightly-ignorant-homeschooling-pansy-Christian-redhead). So far we have deep relationships with them as we are just starting to enter the teen years. Thank you for your example sister!
Hah, this is an awesome post! I always think it’s funny the sort of knee-jerk reactions people have to things they don’t really understand (or, in most cases, *care* to understand). The Internet gives kids access to all sorts of things their parents would rather they not know about… but you can’t really hide your kids from the world (although I do like your idea with hiding your kids in a hole, that seems legit
). The important thing, IMO, is to teach your kids to be good people and trust them to navigate the world on their own terms. I practically grew up on the Internet and I feel like it’s afforded me the opportunity to explore so many different issues and become so much more empathetic and understanding of other people’s lives because I get to know all of those people, whether they live in my geographical area or not. The dark corners of life are always going to be there, online or off, the key is to raise your kids to be confident and comfortable with themselves so that they don’t feel a need to go there.
Anyway, your house seems like it might be a dark corner all on its own. You’re TURNING DOWN the opportunity to read Calvin & Hobbes? You HEATHEN.